Don’t praise the commitment of a man who has no options.
Admire the man who can have whatever & whoever he wants, but then commits to one.
One of the foundational qualities of a man is commitment.
Because commitment means to sacrifice.
If a man cannot sacrifice, it means he wants everything. Those who want everything operate on urges & desires.
If you operate on urges & desires, that means you disqualify from every quality that makes you a leader.
You can’t be trusted, you have no loyalty.
The value you provide serves no one but yourself.
You are as unreliable as your urges acting freely at will.
The problem with commitment, is that the level differs depending on the condition surrounding the man.
The better off a man is, the more options he has, the more commitment tests his character, & thus, the harder for him to commit.
This means commitment is not confirmed until a man reaches a position in life that provides him at least a generous level of abundance.
When measuring the level of commitment, the man who is forced to make ends meet, is on a different wavelength compared to the man who doesn’t.
Urges & desires all get set aside when you are forced to work to have food & shelter. They only come out to play when the necessity to pursue basic living is no longer mandatory.
The significance of commitment is disproportionate to a mans necessity to make ends meet.
This is why its in your best interest to seek a degree of abundance before being with a woman. You first need to understand yourself & your ability to commit under conditions where you have options.
This is assuming you care about integrity & the quality of your future family.
This is also why it is better for a woman to find a man who has reached a respectable level of independence over a man who hasn’t.
For the same reasons, she has a chance to explore how committed that man is given the options he has.
Commitment defines a man. There’s no longevity of your bloodline if you cant make the sacrifice that will involve letting go of the options you worked hard for.
That level of commitment speaks volumes.
It indicates you did it for something greater than just wanting it all.